Shashi Solluna – Boundaries and Consent Training

How to Create the Intimate Encounters that you Desire

Have you ever struggled to ask for what you desire most in intimacy?

Do you ever feel torn between your desires and your inhibitions?

When someone else initiates an intimate situation, have you ever felt confused about whether you want it or not?

Have you ever entered into intimacy and then regretted it afterwards or felt confused the day after?

Do you struggle to express yourself when asking for your desires and needs?

All of these issues are in the realm of boundaries and consent, a subject sadly lacking from most school curriculums.

Most of us were raised with unconscious intimacy….in which people try to fulfill their needs in sneaky ways. Think of the hand sneaking under the clothing, getting the other person drunk enough to get away with intimacy, turning out the lights and trying it on…

As we move into Conscious Sexuality and Tantra, we start to look for new ways to enter into encounters. How can we become more honest and open with what we want? What can we do with the shame and embarrassment about asking? And how do we deal with rejection?

In Tantra we discover that boundaries are not all about out “no”. They are actually about creating the container that will facilitate our greatest expansion. They are about facilitating our “yes”!

We move away from someone sneakily trying to take, and another fighting them off with boundaries. And instead we become two (or more) adults taking responsibility for what we desire, and able to ask for what we need.

It is all about becoming SAFE to EXPAND.

We all actually desire mind-blowing expansive experiences. And we all have our own set of fears, past traumas and inhibitions.

Bridging between these two oppositions is the skill of knowing what we need and being able to express it.

This seven-part series is a guide to getting in touch with your needs, knowing your fears, expressing your needs and communicating it all with those you wish to interact with.

And yes that means new people, but it also can include those who have been intimate with for years! If you didn’t practice conscious communications about your desires and needs before, then even a couple who have been together for decades can benefit from these practices and skills.

This is a process. It can facilitate healing from our past experiences that were less than conscious. And also help us heal from trauma in which our boundaries were violated in the past. It is essential in such cases to find a voice to express your boundaries.

It is a journey of empowerment. To own your desires and be able to ask for what you want. To know when you want to give pleasure and when you want to take it, and start to be able to fulfill your own needs.

It is a journey of greater clarity: to understand the mechanics of desires and fears, and be able to create the experiences that you want without hurting or taking advantage of anyone else….intimacy win-win situations!

These skills are an essential part of any Master Lover skill set; the very foundation of your intimate connections with others.

What You’ll Learn In Boundaries and Consent Training

• Why do we need boundaries? (11:21)
• Healing past trauma with healthy boundaries (8:12)
• Navigating between our desires and our fears (16:37)
• How to ask for what you desire (12:54)
• Who is it for? Conscious consent. (8:54)
• The Tantric Elevator Pitch (11:54)
• Intimacy Aftercare (9:35)

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